Feedback Frustration

Romance Author

Feedback Frustration

When I picked up the pen and started writing, I was thrilled at the amount of feedback I was receiving.  At the time, I wasn’t even looking for it.  Now that I have several stories and books out, I expected to see more reviews.  I still receive support on social media with the likes, retweets and shares, and yeah I still get some of the sickos who want me to help them play out their  fantasies, but I noticed most recently that while I get email from some of my closer friends, I am not seeing the feedback on the web site or amazon sites.

I am curious as to what may have happened.  I thought initially it was just timing, but then I wondered if it was the changing climate here in the US.  The government has come under so much scrutiny about cyber and citizens being watched, I got paranoid and thought readers were not commenting because they were scared as well.

I traveled through Europe last year to promote my books and meet a couple of long time friends and was thrilled at the turnout.  Scared as hell to go out in public but Europe is not the US and I found it a lot more accepting to girls like me.  I mean I only went out once en femme while in Amsterdam and the other book signings were a little more conventional.  Strange that only the other girls wanted to chat while the men just wanted an autograph, but each night I received more email than ever in support of the books and a few indecent proposals.

I still love hearing the thoughts and suggestions of my readers, and wish I could see more of it on the web site instead of the private messages.  Maybe I should take the advice of one of my more frequent readers who suggested I give my stuff away, What do you think?

It is really weird talking about this since I never really was that interested in making money off of all of this. Now that I am I seem to want more than just getting paid.  I would love to hear from readers and other writers to hear your thoughts on receiving reviews and feedback.




6 Responses

  1. Jeremy says:

    Not exactly sure what you are asking… but consider this. Many people who read erotica are frustrated too and are looking for gratification. Sounds like you might want some too. I just read one of your short stories and might add that while the story is great the subject matter might also explain the lack of feedback.

  2. BeckiTV says:

    I agree with Jeremy, some of us prefer to stay silent

  3. Kris says:

    For the record I love erotic stories. Not just because they get me off (that is a plus though) but because they are something different and unique. I can put myself in the story instead of just reading about it.

  4. Marcy C says:

    First off I would like to say awesome blog!
    I had a quick question that I’d like to ask if you don’t mind. I was interested to know how you center yourself and clear your head before writing.

    I have had trouble clearing my mind in getting my ideas out. I truly do enjoy writing but it just seems like the first 10 to 15 minutes tend to be wasted just trying to figure out how to begin. Any suggestions or hints? Cheers!

    • Well, I think everyone is different when it comes to this. That said, I start with the idea. Usually, it is not more than a couple of sentences and almost always becomes the description of the story or book when I publish. Once I have an idea, I usually step away from anything and take some time to myself. For me getting in my truck and driving down to Starbucks or McDonald’s is enough for me. The time alone in the truck allows me to clear my head and think about how the story can be molded. When I get back, I already have the first few pages written in my head based on the ideas I came up with. I will repeat the process until I am satisfied the piece is done. After that, I wait… sounds weird right, but it helps. I wait a day or two them go back and read the entire piece – adjusting where I need to.

      After that it is a question of publishing – to have someone review it or not and how you want to publish. There are apps like Grammerly that can help with the proof reading process along with the tools in MS Word, but once that is done, I usually just put it out there. And allow the feedback to come in. There are times the feedback will reference grammatical errors but for the most part they are fine.

      Hope this helps.

  5. Anon says:

    Why do you want comments anyway – all you are really doing is spreading kinky sex stuff anyway – you are no different than any other pornographer.

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